Saturday, 3 August 2013

It's All About You!

The other day I was doing 'psychic reiki' or a 'reiki reading', I'm never sure what to call it, and what came out of it was pretty interesting, so doing a blog was a perfect way to clear up a few myths and fairy tales.
As I was talking to this lady, offering her healing, insight and advice, she turned to me saying 'You are a powerful person, you know'.
I told of her none of us is powerful, we are all on the same level. There are no gurus, no 'more than' or 'less than', no more advanced or less advanced.  Do you get the feeling there is a lecture coming...?
I'll repeat that, just so there are no misunderstandings. We are all on the same level, how we choose to live on that level or where we want to be on that level is what defines us. When I say it defines us, it defines us as a person, not as a comparison to anyone else. We all move at the speed and rate we need to, or are comfortable with...although sometimes the universe has a way of giving us a nudge every now and then if we get stuck!  And how we love that....Not!
If, as we choose what we want in life, this gives us a knowledge others feel they don't have, we can all be safe in assuming they have some knowledge we don't.  We aren't meant to be superior or inferior, we are here to help each other, to complement each others gifts and talents, to complete the jigsaw puzzle that is our earthly existence.
Each of us has an inner knowing; some of us can tap into it easily and readily, while others only recognise it when it kicks us up the bum or bitch slaps us. Whichever way you use your inner knowing, be it voluntary, involuntary or dragging you kicking and screaming, it doesn't make you more or less than anyone else. It just makes you YOU!
Don't give your power away to those who believe they are gurus or experts - appearances don't always ring true and sometimes their actions and words can disempower you...if you let them.
If you need an authority on your life, pick you! If you want to know the answers for you, then believe you will find them and you will! By all means ask others for insight, advice and inspiration, but don't believe they know more about you than you do, don't believe they have all the answers or that you are not on the same level as them.
As I said to this lady at the end of her sesssion.  None of us is perfect, we are all 'stuffed up' to some degree, no matter how much we have experienced or 'know'.  Some people are just better at hiding it than others.
When I do a reading for someone who asks a question like 'Should I leave my town...' I tell them I don't do those kind of readings, but what comes through will generally help you realise you knew the answer all along!
Be Strong, Be Powerful. Be YOU!
with love, integrity and inspiration
Cherie xx

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Inspiration Comes In Many Packages

This morning as I was travelling on the bus, a woman captured my attention. There are some who would say she was heavily tattooed, but the designs were so intricate and beautifully coloured, I would hesitate to use that comment. The first thing that struck me as she stepped on the bus was her straight black hair with a fringe of stunning red. It looked amazing! She sat on the seat in front of me.
I couldn't help but admire the fine detail of the tattoo on the back of her neck. I could see there was writing there, but she was wearing a collar so I couldn't quite see what it said.
Curiosity got the better of me and I tapped her on the shoulder and asked her if she would mind telling me what it said. When she turned to me, I could see many piercings on her face, but they were so delicate looking, they didn't portray arrogance, anger or any of those other emotions people get piercings for. She told me it said 'Forever Me'.
I sat and pondered on that for a while and tapped her on the shoulder again. 'Would you mind telling me why you chose to have that particular phrase on your neck? Is it because you have had bad experiences in your life and found you can't rely on anyone?'
She gave me a beautiful smile and said 'No, all my life family and friends have asked me when I'll change, insisting this is just a phase I am going through. I tell them this is who I am.  My tattoo is about being forever me, being true to who I am and not conforming to what is expected of me.'
What an inspiration to us all! How often have we all wanted to do something out of the ordinary and taken on board other people's belief systems or worried about the response friends and family will have? How many of us have forgotten how to be true to ourselves, because society's laws expect us to behave in a certain way at a certain age? When I turned 35 I was told it was time to cut my hair short, because women over that age didn't 'look good' with long hair. Good enough reason to grow my hair, I thought.
So today's question is: Are you being true to yourself, or are you merely a shadow of you - someone elses perception of who you are? Or are you like that inspirational woman I met on the bus and being who you are, wherever you are? (and yes I know that's more than one question!)
Sometimes we need to look deep inside to discover if the reason why we don't feel as 'divine' and 'perfect' as we are. Is it the situation we are in? Is it the people we hang around with? Or is it just because we are stifling our true selves because we are 'being' what is expected of us?
Is it time for you to 'Be'
With Love, Respect & Integrity
Cherie xx

Thursday, 1 August 2013

Moving Through Fear

Today I was talking to someone about a decision they were struggling with. They were in love with someone, but that person was moving to another state and they weren't sure whether they should go along. This person did lots of logical analysis telling me all the reasons it wouldn't work and perhaps they should just stay put, and...see what developed....This is how our conversation went:
Me: So if you don't go, will you regret it?
Them: Well, yes. But what if it doesn't work out?
Me: What is the absolute worst thing that could happen?
Them: I could end up in a strange place with no friends.
Me: So have you made friends where you live now? What is the difference between making friends here or there?
Them: Hmm, well I have a family member I need to be around. I can't let them down.
Me: If that family member had a chance to do what you are doing, would they stay there for you, so they wouldn't let you down? ...just asking... I love asking the 'hard' questions!
Them: Well, I guess I needed someone to ask me probing questions, to help me get things in perspective.
Me: Life is full of opportunities. Some work. Some don't. There are no guarantees in life. So, ask yourself: 'In 20 years time, will I be living in regret or will I be happy with the choices I've made.' You are young. Even if you are stuck there for a year or four, it's only a small dent in your life span...and think of the wonderful experiences you can have there that you can't have right where you are now!
This was followed by a huge explanation of how the current plans this person had might not be compatible with the move, for a variety of reasons...and then they mentioned the 's' word....
Me: Are you trying to convince me or you?
Them: Me.... I'm 'scared' it might not work out. I need to stop thinking and let whatever happens happens.
Me: Yes, you are over-thinking, trying to be logical and rationalise and analyse. Just 'be'!
Them: And if it's meant to be, it will be!
Okay, so this wasn't quite what I had meant, so I decided to try my favourite ploy for helping people to recognise what they really want to do, but they are so busy focusing on what could go wrong, they can't 'hear' it.
Me: Okay, so think of the very worst thing that has ever happened to you. Where do you feel it? What does it feel like?
Them: My Heart? Like something's consuming it.. Like being breathless?
Me: Now think of the best thing. How does it feel and where?
Them: My heart and my tummy. Like everything is floating.
Me: Now think of the person you love. Which feeling do you get?
Them: The second one, because they are one of the best things that's happened to me!
I won't mention that I jokingly suggested meeting me was probably THE best thing in their life!
Me: Okay, so now think about moving.
Them: It scares me...instead of butterflies, it feels like rocks in my belly.
Me: Now think about staying right here.
Them: I don't know, I suppose I feel neutral...flat.
Me: Now think about not ever 'hooking up' with them again.
Them: Sad.
Me: Where?
Them: My heart.
Me: Now think about being with them/married.
Them: Butterflies and happiness..
Me: Where?
Them: My heart and my tummy again.
Me: So, can you see the pattern here? Your body will never lie to you. The bad and the good feelings are your true barometer. All else is fear. Fear isn't real. It's something we create so we don't have to leave our comfort zone.
Me: Gotcha!
This person came up with a viable solution that would enable them to test the waters and re-organise their life to incorporate this big change. As they told me their new 'plan', I couldn't help thinking: 'This person has gone from a place of fear and indecision to talking like someone without regrets! How awesome is that?!

How often do we feel the fear and believe doing nothing is what we really want to do? How often do we listen to the rocks in our stomach instead of the butterflies in our heart?
When we align with our emotions/true feelings, we are able to work out what we are creating with fear, and what is our true course.

Remember fear is what we create to avoid stepping out of our comfort isn't is our imagination taking flight. Lets bring it back down to earth, so we can realise our truth and our desired path.

with love, respect and integrity
Cherie xx